My father often had me in “our” next door band room and he showed me all of the instruments…he played the trumpet and I knew I would. But, as a 3 year old, I needed to play a drum. He showed me how to play it …lightly and then moved on to what ever he was doing. I took the stick and shoved it through the drum head tip first. I knew I was in trouble. I never told dad I did it. I know he knew.